If You’re Happy and You Know It

… Show Your Gratitude!

be grateful for natureI haven’t been able to get the kid’s song “If You’re Happy and You Know It” out of my head today. But instead of clapping your hands, my words keep coming back to saying thank you. I should’ve maybe changed the title to “If You’re Grateful and You Know It” because that’s really what this article is all about. Showing gratitude.

Happiness and gratitude go hand in hand. You can’t really show or feel gratitude when your unhappy, and you can’t be unhappy when you’re being grateful. Nice circle to be caught in … not a vicious one at all!

I’m probably dating myself, but there’s a line in the Sound of Music song “Sixteen Going on Seventeen” that goes something like “love in your heart wasn’t put there to stay – Love isn’t love ’til you give it away.”

It’s the same with gratitude. As William Arthur Ward said “Feeling gratitude and not expressing it is like wrapping a present and not giving it.” Which makes me think that gratitude isn’t really much more than a thought until you give it away.

Unfortunately we live in the age of assumption. So many people think things, but never actually say them out loud. And so we may feel love, or happiness, or gratitude for someone and they won’t have a clue because we never get around to telling them. We either assume they already know, or we assume they will reject our feelings and so we say nothing.

Let your feelings out and tell another person how you feel about them. I can tell you from experience that I absolutely love it when you email me or leave a comment on my blog and tell me you liked something I’ve written. You can’t see my smile online when that happens, but if you show or tell someone in your physical life that you appreciate them you will definitely see their smile.

So how can you show your gratitude?

We already covered telling someone you love them and are grateful they’re in your life. Here are few other ways you can show gratitude…

Write a thank you note to someone who has helped you. People hardly ever write by hand anymore. Taking a minute to send a card with a handwritten message is a great way to show gratitude. I know my insurance lady will be getting one this week for finding me a great deal. :)

Smile at someone on the street or in line at the checkout. It doesn’t cost you anything, and you can show your gratitude and spread a little happiness by smiling at someone when you’re both waiting for a streetlight to change or in line at the store or the bank or the coffee shop.

Give a friend a hug. It’s easy to assume your friends will always be there. Too often we take them for granted, and forget to show them how much we appreciate and love that they are in our lives. Giving a friend a hug is a great way to show your gratitude for their presence in your life.

Head outside and appreciate the sunshine and fresh air. It’s also way too easy to take nature for granted, especially if you live in an area where there is an abundance of open space. But believe me, when you live in an area where you don’t get that or don’t have a way to easily get to it, you really begin to appreciate every moment that you get to spend outside. Show your gratitude for the environment by doing whatever you can to preserve it, and get out there and enjoy it whenever you can.

Volunteer your time. What better way to show your appreciation for everything you have in your life by helping out someone who has less or is going through a tough time. There is so much hardship in the world right now that we should, as human beings, be helping each other through them. Giving even an hour of your time each week is a great way to share your gratitude for all the good things in your life.

When you share your gratitude, you also benefit from it. Being grateful is a core part of the Law of Attraction — what you put out is what you get back. Sharing gratitude and appreciation with others also sends more gratitude and appreciation back to you. And when you feel appreciated you can’t help but also feel happier and more positive about your own life.

So, to paraphrase that wonderful children’s song … If you’re grateful and you know it … Show it!

Being Grateful When Times Are Tough

When times are tough, and things aren’t going your way; when money is tight, and you don’t know if you’re going to have a job next week, sometimes it’s really hard to feel grateful. And that’s exactly when we need to remind ourselves that we do have things to be grateful for.

Be Grateful For What Is Working

It’s very easy to get caught up in negative thoughts when things aren’t going as well as you’d like. One of the things you can do when you find yourself swamped by negative thoughts is to sit down and write out a list of the things that are working in your life that you feel grateful for.

Go easy on yourself by start with the most obvious things such as:

Do you have a home?
Did you eat today?
Are you healthy?
Do you have clothes to wear?

Just because you drive a used car or shop for clothes at Value Village doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t feel grateful to have them.

It’s also important to be grateful for the little things that happen in your life. A hug from a family member, a good night’s sleep, and hitting all the green lights on your morning commute are all things to be grateful for.

Be Grateful For Your Challenges

Another thing to be grateful for is the challenges that you face in tough times.

What? Is she nuts?

I can hear those thoughts a mile away. :) And no, I’m not nuts. Bear with me for a minute here and you’ll see what I mean.

If everything was smooth sailing throughout your life, there would never be any reason to learn new things. And if you never learn new things, there’s no reason to grow as a person.

Challenges in your life are there to help you grow – to become better, faster, and stronger than you are right now.

The trick to getting most out of challenges and tough times that life throws your way is to be thankful for them, and for the lessons you learn in dealing with them.

It’s not always an easy thing to do, but every time you overcome a challenge you have something else to be grateful for. Not only have you succeeded in getting through a rough patch in your life, by doing so you’ve given yourself more tools and knowledge that you can use to succeed next time.

Staying grateful when times are tough is a way to show yourself that you can handle anything life throws at you. And that’s definitely something to be grateful for!

Expressions of Gratitude: Five Ways to Say Thanks

thankyou1_smThere’s a lot to be said for saying thanks. I know I’ve started keeping a gratitude journal on my personal blog, and since I’ve started I feel better, I sleep better, and I’m losing weight!

But some people have a hard time saying thank you even when they know they should. A lot of times it’s just that pesky ego getting in the way — we equate saying thanks with showing weakness on some level because by thanking someone for doing something for us, we perceive it as a weakness that we needed the help in the first place.

Even though you can acknowledge and write about how grateful you are in the privacy of your gratitude journal, sometimes it’s just not enough. You really do have to show that gratitude for the person responsible for it.

Just in case you have trouble saying the words, here’s a few more ways to express your feelings of gratitude…

Write a “Thank You” note.

Do you know how few people actually write anything by hand anymore? Taking time to pick out a nice thank you card and write a note inside it is a great way of showing your gratitude.

Give a “Thank You” gift.

A small gift as a token of your appreciation is another great expression of gratitude. It doesn’t have to be a big thing, a gift card for the bookstore or a favorite coffee shop is a great way to say thanks. Just slip the gift card in the thank you note for a double dose of gratefulness.

Return the Favor.

The gift of your time is one of the most personal expressions of gratitude there is. When someone does something for you, showing your appreciation by spending time with them lets you know how much you appreciate them (even when the actual words get stuck in your throat).

Share Your Gratitude Publicly.

Show your appreciation for someone by giving them your thanks in front of others.

And finally, suck it up and just say the words. Don’t stress about how you’re going to say it, just do it. A simple, heartfelt “Thank You” or “I appreciate you” will often be enough to let the other person know your feelings. Be genuine and smile you say it, and you’ll give both them and you a boost of good energy.

I know this post reads a bit like an etiquette lesson, but it really is important not to bottle up feelings of gratitude. They’re a lot like feelings of love that way — the more you express them and give them away, the better you feel about it!

Go ahead and try it! Use the comments section to share your expressions of gratitude with someone today. :)